Dream a Little Dream

I have a confession to make.

As self righteous as it sounds when I write it down in black and white, I sometimes tire of hearing the various life obstacles people blame for circumventing their personal dreams. I probably show such little patience for the blame game because I'm often guilty of leaning on those same obstacles to excuse my own apathy.

You see, I've always dreamed of writing (publishable) fiction.

One day my husband asked how far along I was in completing a painful and awfully close to home story that had haunted me for a while. While the story concept was ultimately hopeful, its progression began in tragedy.

I longed to know what would happen when two parents who loved each other very much were drawn into a bitter battle over how far medical science should go to intervene when their severely disabled child has an accident that sends him into a semi-vegetative state.

As the mother of two developmentally unique children, to say that the story hit awfully close to home was an understatement. I'd already been kicking myself for my stalling tactics. Beyond having the plot, synopsis and two agonizing to write chapters sitting on my hard drive, I'd wasted an awful lot of time doing everything imaginable to avoid diving into the guts of that story. And my darling husband's question hit a sore spot.

"How far have I gotten? How far?," I ranted. "You're gone all the time. I have three kids here, two of them autistic, and all of them crashing headfirst into puberty. The school dumps crisis after crisis on me and you want to know my f***ing word count?"

And if that wasn't enough ammo to unload on the poor man in one shot, I moved in for the guilt bonus. "And did I mention that the last time I actually had time to write, you used it up to go to Home Depot?"

Then that man my mother told me not to marry said the most vile thing any would be writer ever heard. "If you aren't writing its only because you don't want to."

Thud.

"What a horrible, rotten, low-down thing to say!"

I stomped around the house for days, proving exactly how little time I had to spend creating. The flames of my rage drove me like a dervish as I whirled through every room. I cleaned closets, rearranged rooms, boxed up years of outgrown clothing, and saw the bottom of the laundry hamper for the first time since Monica's dress got stained.

What my husband had said to me felt like a very low blow. Even worse, I knew he'd said it because he loves me. But it was pretty hard to swallow the fact that someone who is supposed to love me would serve me up a big, fat piece of cold, hard truth.

Admitting to myself that my husband had made a dead-on observation regarding my stalling tactics just plain hurt. Blaming my children's struggles for my paucity of writing time had allowed me to turn my back on the real truth for years.

You see, not writing at all was far easier than to risk falling butt first into failure.

A new book fell into my hands not so long ago. It was a thin paperback, simply bound. Someone actually thought my nonverbal son might enjoy it. And he did, immensely. We both cried as we read that book aloud together.

The author's writing was spare in the way of haiku. I'd have enjoyed the work even if I'd failed to read the back cover copy. You see, the fact that this author's thoughts ever made it onto paper in the first place is nothing short of miraculous.

The Diving Bell and the Butterfly was written by a paralyzed, nearly vegetative author from what would soon become his death bed. After a catclysmic neurological event left him paralyzed everywhere but his left eye, he dictated this luminous contribution to literature to an assistant without speaking, signing, or even pointing to a single word.

He communicated his artistic vision by blinking a code with his left eye designed to tell an assistant what letter it was that he wanted committed to paper.

Read it.

If you still doubt that your life will never allow you to orchestrate a way to live out you personal dreams, then I promise you that you never will.

No more excuses. Dream a little dream. Today.

Dear Lord, I sometimes forget that its ok to spend time pursuing dreams of my own. I sometimes forget that your Word has commanded us to use our gifts well here on Earth. In the Bible you taught us that "each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully adminstering God's grace in various forms." (1 Peter 4:10) Please give me the skills I need to use my days wisely, striking a healthy balance between performing my daily duties and pursuing my personal dreams.

Amen.